How to Disagree – My Exchange with Dr. Marc Shapiro
Yesterday was tense. It was uncomfortable. It was a day of squeezing in a lengthy reply to Dr. Marc Shapiro’s post about some of my writings, between loads of regular work and with almost no sleep the night beforehand. (I had actually drafted my entire reply overnight, anticipating a very hectic workday, only to have accidentally deleted the entire draft at 2:30 AM, and then spending close to an hour in an unsuccessful attempt to find the draft in the online black hole. It was not fun…)
I anticipated a prolonged and unpleasant back-and-forth, which would be fruitless and only cause more strife.
But last evening, when I finally again got to my email, rays of light were shining, for Dr. Shapiro had sent several kind comments and messages clarifying that the issues were not personal, graciously (and unnecessarily) apologizing for any hard feelings, and also explaining his work and his goals. I apologized for any overstatement of his identification with controversial views, and we proceeded to share our hopes that our public exchange not be perceived as reflective of any type of sinah or personal affront. Our exchange was about ideas only. My communications with Dr. Shapiro were really refreshing.
Recently, a friend suggested that I change my image and post about more positive things. I replied that I had just posted two articles about noncontroversial topics, plus two divrei Torah on the parsha, as well as four articles on Halacha – but that these articles were given little attention, they received fewer clicks and “likes”, and that people are unfortunately focused on articles that deal with controversy.
But even when dealing with controversy, and even when the discourse is heated, let it not be perceived as sinah or personal clash. It is about ideas only. My exchange with Dr. Shapiro, and his kind and classy reaching out to clarify, are a deep lesson to all.
I think at this point more positive could be done explaining how to do Mod-O (or O in general) right. One could make the very same points you are making now, but instead of “it’s wrong to do X” explain the beauty of doing Y.
For example, one of the most effective rebuttals of Document Hypothesis doesn’t mention it at all. Rabbi JB Solveitchik must have known he was addressing the same issues the Bible Critics cite to argue that Genesis 1 and Genesis 2 had different authors from different schools of thought. But he doesn’t point that out. Instead, he gives an explanation that is so poetic and so compelling, it draws one toward traditional Yahadus and leaves one untroubled by the questions the critic raises.
Likes and comments just measure how much a post satisfy the choir’s need for validation, or the opposition’s need to have a fun debate. I am not sure those are effective measures of minds changed. Given R/Dr M Shapiro’s post, it seems the attack approach is doing more to give them a communal identity than actually solving the problem.
Rav Soloveitchik mentions the theories of the Biblical critics explicitly. He rejects them, of course, but he acknowledges them.
Reb Nachum: Do you have a mar’eh maqom?
It’s when he first brings up Adam I and II in The Lonely Man of Faith. I found it on Amazon; I imagine page numbers differ in different editions.
the relevant question to ask , in response to r micha , and frankly all the critics is— do the protests make any difference , is anyone in the pews in hinterland, usa thinking about any of these issues , or against most of the classical MO positions? is it just RWMO leadership showing their haredi counterparts that they too are sometimes willing to say ‘ad kan’ ?
Thank you and yasher koach R Gordimer for you efforts in exposing OO and handling this matter so well, you are a beacon and a model of character.