Jewish Mourning

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  1. Chana says:

    Mourning in Judaism is a profound and somewhat beautiful concept. The fact that the mourners
    are to reminisce, to understand, to speak of the dead, to observe certain customs in their memory,
    the awesome transition of the onen to the mourner, the one who can do no mitzvot at all to the one
    who must specifically refrain from doing certain actions, is fascinating.

    Erich Fromm writes of various religions and their ideas as to death. He says that one emotion that
    is tabooed is the sense of tragedy, and goes on to explain how various religions understood death.
    Fascinatingly, he speaks of Judaism as being the only one to approach death realistically, but also
    to look forward towards a time when the world would be ruled through justice- the ending days, or the days
    of the Messiah.

    There is a sefer published in the MeOtzar HaRav series which has R’ Soloveitchik’s profound
    understanding of what it means to suffer, to mourn, and to die. He contrasts the great negation
    of the individual at death with the mourning we must follow, and brings up various ideas
    and connections to death. One idea I really liked was that of the Rambam’s, which explained
    that the soul longs to be reunited with God, and that in those instances, death is but a “kiss”
    as it is mentioned through the Torah.

    The sefer is called ‘Out of the Whirlwind’- here is the link:
    The fact that he does not negate suffering, pain, emotion, or mourning is beautiful.

    My friend’s brother passed away this year, and many people did not know how to comfort her.
    Therefore, they said things like, “He’s in Olam Haba now,” or “It’s better this way,” things which,
    far from comforting her, only made her feel worse. I think it is a very difficult thing to
    comfort mourners, and therefore the comments about Aaron were very truthful, and probably much
    more meaningful because they were genuine…instead of simply a repitition of something someone
    once heard about the next World.

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