Rabbinic Outcry Against Lavish Weddings in the 17th Century

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  1. Josh says:

    um, you state that “Immediately after, the Torah forbids taking a pledge of a millstone to guarantee a loan”. From the verses he uses it does not sound like he is just referring to people who are using all of their own money, rather that they are borrowing money as well. Furthermore, how in the world do you know how they got their money to make their weddings? Maybe they borrowed part or all of the money and then were saddled with debt that they could not pay back

  2. Reb Yid says:

    In my research, I’ve noticed a similar trend in American Jewish history regarding lavish Bar (and later Bat) Mitzvahs beginning in the latter part of the 19th century (around the time when Christmas became more heavily commercialized) .  Every 50-60 years we see a spate of activities from rabbis who are denouncing this, demanding less “Bar” and more “Mitzvah”.

  3. lacosta says:

    maybe the difference is in those days most people were poor  , and there was no such thing as thousands sitting de rigeur in Kollel for 5-10 years starting the day after sheva brochos on the shver’s cheshbon.     in those days,  at least a girl could get a shidduch without a promise of tens of thousands of Kroner , Mark,  oder Florins  from her father in order to procure a date.              since the gemara says ‘tav lemeitav tan du’ ,  and there will be 10% of girls  who will never get married just based on the birth rates,   what other choice do the  parents of a daughter have ?     we don’t have an option of a nunnery….

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